The hole that my son, David Glasser, left is getting bigger.
David was a Phoenix Police Officer who was killed in the line of duty on May 18th, 2016.
Two years ago……and the hole seemed big then. It’s only gotten bigger.
He has missed so much. He wasn’t there for so many things he should have been. The list of missed birthdays, the missed Christmas’, the missed Father’s days – and Mother’s Days – is growing. He will never get to play with his new niece – and he would have been an awesome uncle.
One of the ironic feelings I have at David Glasser Foundation events is ‘Davey would love this – he should be here’. And I don’t mean his ‘spirit’ – I mean the super-tall guy with the big grin on his face making everybody laugh.
So many people say the first year after someone dies is the hardest. I would agree that it is very hard. We have to figure out all the ‘firsts’. Our hearts are pierced and bleeding so it’s an overwhelming struggle to do anything for the first time without the one we lost.
But the permanence of the situation becomes much more real in the second year…the second birthday….the second Christmas…. It just cannot be true that the rest of our lives are going to be like this – without Davey. I don’t want it to be true.
For me, this is the part that is so different from when my father, mother and older brother died. They were older than me, so I expected there would be a time when I would be here on earth without them.
That isn’t true about Davey. He was supposed to be here while his dad and I grew old, making jokes about our move into a 55+ community. He was supposed to retire from being a cop and become a high school teacher and basketball coach. He was supposed to coach his children’s baseball, softball, flag football and basketball teams. He was supposed to keep tailgating and being the life of the party. He was supposed to be here to celebrate his children’s graduations and weddings….and his grandchildren.
It still doesn’t seem possible that he won’t be doing any of that.
It still doesn’t seem possible that we will have to do all of that without him.
I know we will…..and God is giving us the strength and purpose to do that.
But the hole Davey has left in our lives is very big ….. and it’s getting bigger.