We’re Starving …….

were-starvingfor love.

for acceptance.

for community.

This last week is proof.

We all want to be loved and we aren’t getting a lot of it in our current culture.

I was truly amazed by the response to the Dave Glasser #8144 Love You Campaign this last week.  I knew it was special and unique and an important part of Davey’s legacy.

I just didn’t realize how much our community is starving for good news – news about telling each other that we ‘love you’ and spreading that love around to others that live around us.

I had the opportunity to tell Dave’s ‘Love You’ story on the Channel 15 News and the response has been overwhelmingly positive.  We have a Dave Glasser #8144 Love You Campaign group page on Facebook – if you’d like to be a part of this group and get the news on the campaign, just ask to join it.  Please join it – we’d all like to hear how you are helping to spread the ‘Love You’s’.

And I have a challenge for all of you –

start increasing the love right in your own home.

Make sure you’re telling the people in your home that you love them and, maybe more importantly, show it.  The people around you are starving for love and attention.  Your teenagers might not act like it, but, underneath all that attitude, they are.

Turn off the TV and put away the pads and telephones and video games.  When you’re looking at a screen, your body is there but your mind is not.

Talk with each other.  Set up a family game night where you put your screens away and sit around the table, laughing and making memories.  Make it extra special by sharing their favorite dessert.   Go out for ice cream – leaving your phones at home.  With older kids, go bowling, again a ‘no screen’ zone.  Have dinner together around the table at least once a week – and more if you can – no screens and only positive, encouraging conversation.  You can do it!  I know you can!

If you don’t have any kids, ask the people around you to put down their screens so they are actually present with you.  Invite some friends over to play some cards and make it a ‘no screen’ zone.  Davey loved to play poker – have a regular Dave Glasser Memorial Poker night –  and include some shots 🙂 #Davewouldloveit.

The reporter for Channel 15 asked me this week what I think Dave would say about this #8144 Love You campaign.

I think he would really enjoy the fact that this Christmas has a little more love in it because of what he role-modeled for us.  He encouraged his squad to express their love for each other and, knowing that, the rest of us have also been encouraged to tell each other ‘Love you’ more often.  It has deepened our relationships and helped us grow closer as we figure out how to move forward without him.

Davey loved people.  They were very important to him.  It’s one of the reasons he became a Policeman and it helped make him a great one.

So…..go ahead, put down your screen and go give someone a hug…hang out with them awhile and say ‘Love you’.

#8144loveyou

#honoringDaveslegacy

The Dave Glasser #8144 ‘Love You’ Campaign

If Dave were here, he’d be saying it to you, right,  James Byrd?

Byrd told all of us at the funeral about Dave saying ‘Love you’ to his brothers in blue in his squad before he left for his shift.  And he expected them to say it, too.  At first, it felt a little awkward for all the guys loaded down with guns and weapons to be saying ‘Love you’ to each other but Dave insisted.  Because you never know if you’re going to get another chance to say it.

Turns out, he was so right.  Too right.daveys-spot-on-birthday

But all of us know he loved us.  He told us all the time – its his legacy.  And he showed it with his ready smile, loyalty, how he included everyone in his love of having fun and a million other different ways.

Since May many of us closest to Dave have gotten good at telling each other ‘Love you’ when we’re leaving.  Because nobody knows better than we do just how easy it is for us not to have another chance to say it.

And it has added some extra love to our relationships.  It has added a new depth to how important we are to each other.  It has added a clear understanding of how we are all sharing his loss together.

I just realized 

we’ve already started the Dave Glasser #8144 Love You Campaign.

And now is a great time to tell everyone else about it.  Let’s spread the love around even farther.

Would the people in your life benefit from hearing you tell them you love them more often?

Could the world around you use a little more love?

Are people around you in a stressed-out rush?

If they aren’t yet, they will be soon as Christmas gets closer and closer.

What are some things – big and small – that you could do to show some love to someone else?  You might know these people, you might not.  Love takes many forms – it can be a little more patience with them or some more forgiveness and understanding.  Love can look like giving people space to get on the freeway.  Or parking in a spot at the far end of the parking lot so others can take the close spots.  Sometimes just a smile can show acceptance and love to someone.  And never forget small gifts of chocolate 🙂

Is there someone you need to start saying ‘love you’ to more often?  Believe me, you never know if you’ll ever get another chance. #8144 love you.

Maybe there are a bunch of people you need to start saying ‘love you’ to. #Davewouldloveit.

Who are the people around you that you can start showing more love to? #honoringDaveslegacy.

I’ve started a Facebook page  – and then changed it to a group –  for The Dave Glasser #8144 Love You Campaign.

It’s for you.  It’s for all of us.

Tell us about how you are sharing the love. #8144loveyou.

Any fun ideas on how to tell people and show people you love them? #Davewouldloveit

You can post pictures, sayings – anything that will encourage the rest of us to share the love. #honoringDaveslegacy

Byrd – do you have the clip of your sharing this at Dave’s funeral?  If so, can you post it on the page? daves-squad

Everyone – go ahead and join the group so we can start spreading the news of the Dave Glasser #8144 Love You Campaign.

#8144loveyou.

 

Forever 34

As we move forward from May 19th E.O.W. #8144,  we are figuring out a new normal.  We are blessed with a great group of family, friends and our Blue Family.  Together, we’re taking each holiday as it comes and learning how to celebrate it with only memories of Dave.

It’s not easy to do.

It doesn’t feel right.

A lot of grief.

The empty hole in our life is very evident.

But we have no other choice.asu

We had an ASU vs U of A  Football Game party the day after Thanksgiving.  Davey loved ASU and he loved the rivalry.  He graduated from ASU along with most of our family except we have one Wildcat…..and he loved to razz her about it …constantly 🙂

Davey had  a rivalry party a couple of years ago and it was great doing it again.  His squad came as well as many new friends and old friends.  It was hard – we missed him but Davey’s spirit of fun and love was all over the gathering.  It was good to be together.

A lot of love.

A lot of caring.

A lot of great memories.

Now Christmas is right around the corner.  I have 30 pictures on my frig of my ‘Christmas Kids’ – one for every year since Davey was 4.  In the early pictures, he and his sister are sitting on Santa’s lap.  A couple of years later, Davey is standing in the picture because he refused to sit on Santa’s lap any longer.  And it’s not too many years later that Santa didn’t get in the picture at all anymore.

It’s been awesome to watch my two children grow through these pictures and then, gradually, the group also grew as they both married and we added my two very special grand darlings.  Now we get to see the ‘littles” grow with each Christmas kids picture.

davey-squareSo this year we started a new tradition.  My grand darlings are holding a picture of their dad in our Christmas kids picture.  And we will continue to watch them grow every year.

But Davey will stay forever 34…..

It’s hard to imagine a time that I’ll be able to take our Christmas kids picture without tears in my eyes.

Fallen, but never forgotten.