When my son, David Glasser, a Phoenix Police Officer, was killed in the line of duty on May 18, 2016, he left a big hole.
A bomb went off in the lives of everyone who loved him.
A bomb went off in the lives of his brothers and sisters in blue because another one of them was lost.
These bombs shattered parts of our world, parts that we will never get back. There are important pieces missing. There are places in our lives that are broken and can never be fixed.
There is a hole that will never go away.
In fact, that hole is growing. The list of things that Davey is missing is getting longer. The empty places where he should be in our lives are more and more evident.
The amount of things we lost when he was killed increases each day, each month, each year.
And it is very painful.
If you have been reading this blog, you know that I’ve said several times that the grief doesn’t fade, it doesn’t heal, it doesn’t grow less. Don’t tell me time heals all wounds, its not true.
I’m just getting used to the fact that I have to live with this growing hole in my life.
As we approach the third anniversary of Davey’s death, the pain of the permanence of this situation can be overwhelming. The Fallen Officer memorials that fill our calendars this time of year are bitter-sweet as we hear Davey’s name read again along with all of the other fallen officers in our city. The fact that the anniversary of his death is right after Peace Officer Memorial Day on May 15 causes me to have several weeks of rollercoastering emotions.
The reality that I’m going to have to live the rest of my life on this earth without him makes tears stream down my face and haunts my nights. It feels so wrong.
And the hole keeps growing. We have birthdays, Christmas’ and new little members of our family……but Davey’s not here.
He will never be here again. It really hurts when I focus on the hole.
So, once again, I turn my focus onto what I had before he was killed and I am very grateful to God for 34 awesome years with Davey. And I turn my focus onto what I have now and I am very grateful to God for all the blessings he is showering on me today.
But I will always miss you, Davey.