I have been given a life sentence.
For the rest of my time here on earth, my life will have a big hole in it. This hole has been getting larger as each year passes since my son, David Glasser, a Phoenix Police Officer, was killed in the line of duty on Mary 18, 2016. He is missing more and more important events and milestones of his family and our family. He’s not here for first days of school and a new year of flag football. He doesn’t get the chance to play with tiny new members of our family and birthday parties continue to happen without him.
My life sentence has no end on this planet. Every hour, every day, every week, every year – he is gone.
I have awesome memories of him, great pictures and two unbelievably precious grandchildren that remind me of him. But he’s not here.
And he will not be here.
Usually I try not to think about the fact that, 20 years from now, he will still be gone. I guess that’s the reality of a life sentence – it doesn’t change. There is no hope of parole. There is no break.
I try to focus on all of the blessings I had before Davey was killed and all of the blessings I have now. But….sometimes… the hole is just too big. The black hole of grief looms in front of me, making this never-ending path of loss extremely hard to navigate.
This life sentence on earth is a struggle.
So what’s my motivation for getting up in the morning?
Davey is gone but there are so many people still here. God has shown me that he has a purpose for me here on earth. There are still a lot of things he wants me to do. God is very obviously walking beside me down this tough road, giving me strength for the climb and wisdom for the blind curves.
I have also been given the eternal life sentence of being loved and cared for by my good Father God. This life sentence has already started and it will never end. There is no grief or loss in my relationship with God. Nothing can ever separate me from his love.
Davey is no longer experiencing any of these earthly struggles or pain. He’s in a perfect place with his Father God.
And I will be there, too, someday when my purpose on earth is done.
Miss you, Davey.