Davey made a habit of telling people he loved them and showing love to them. He would say “love you” instead of good-bye to everyone he cared about. He was a Phoenix Police Officer who was killed in the line of duty on May 18, 2016. And he was my son.
Davey thought telling people he loved them and showing them he loved them was so important that he tried to influence those around him to also catch the ‘love you’ habit. He was so persistent that even his squad of tough cops at work said ‘Love you’ to each other before they left the squad room. As a result, the last words any of us that he cared about heard from him are ‘Love You’. These words have echoed through our minds these last 6 1/2 years as we have struggled to deal with the huge hole his death left in our lives.
So, does it surprise you that Davey didn’t like Valentine’s Day?
He thought is was a holiday made up by the card and candy manufacturers in order to make money. He knew that telling someone you love them and showing it was not a one day each year holiday. It should be an every day event. So, setting aside one day a year didn’t make sense to him. I received Valentine cards from him during his ‘make your mom a valentine card’ years at school and church but not very many after that.
What I received from Davey was so much more valuable than a card. He gave me consistent, genuine love and attention. Those of you who are his friends and family know what I’m talking about.
He cared about us and he showed it regularly in a thousand different ways.
Isn’t that so much more important than remembering to show our love one day a year?
Don’t get me wrong – I like Valentine’s Day. I think giving candy and valentines to my grand darlings is fun. I have received many beautiful bouquets of flowers from my husband which I really enjoy – I love flowers.
But the challenge for all of us is to figure out how to make every day Valentine’s Day for those we love. I’m not talking about buying stuff. I’m talking about expressing our love in words and actions every day.
I started ‘The David Glasser #8144 Love You Campaign’ on Facebook the first Christmas after Davey died. The purpose of the page is to show love and give encouragement to Law Enforcement Officers, their families and everyone that supports the Thin Blue Line. The group now has more than 1500 members and is growing. Check it out! Click on request to join if you’re interested. You’ll also get all the latest news about the David Glasser Foundation.
There has never been a time when our law enforcement officers and their families need more love and support. Let’s figure out how we can make every day a day they feel loved and encouraged – just like Valentine’s day.
Let’s accept the challenge of trying to make the people we care about feel special and loved every day. Those of us who knew Davey remember how that feels.
Miss you, Davey.
If you would like to know more about this story, check out my book, Then I Looked Up, which was just published on Amazon.
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