Some friends of mine asked if I got mad at God when Davey was killed. My son, David Glasser, was a Phoenix Police Officer who was killed in the line of duty on May 18, 2016.
I hadn’t thought about it before but, looking back, I cannot remember a moment when I was mad at God. I know many people have that reaction when tragedy strikes because we know that God is in total control of what happens on earth and now this really bad thing happened to us.
That was not my response.
After thinking about it, I figured out that I didn’t get mad at God because I learned the truth more than 25 years ago that God is not Santa Claus. He doesn’t exist to grant all of my wishes.
God is not here to do what I want him to do. I am here to do what God wants me to do.
That’s a very important difference.
God is perfect, he is all-knowing and all-powerful. He is the Uncreated One – eternal. It’s all about him, not about me.
I also know that God is good, all the time. He loves me, he wants the best for me and he is working all things out for my good. My current circumstances don’t change these facts.
We spent the night Davey was shot in the hospital praying for a miracle. In the midst of praying and asking everyone I saw to pray for a miracle, I was thinking about the great story we would get to tell when Davey miraculously got better. As the night progressed, more tests were done and it became painfully obvious that Davey had already left us. There was no miracle for us that night.
I remember thinking in the midst of my black swirling cloud of grief, “Well, that’s not the story God is writing right now. There is something else going on. God’s doing something different.”
Faith is about trusting in God even when we don’t understand. Faith is about trusting in God even when we’re struggling with too much pain, too much loss, too much sorrow. Faith is about trusting God even when tomorrow looks dark and it’s not a place we want to go.
The fact is that I’m still here because God has things he wants me to do. That gives me purpose and helps me focus my eyes above instead of what’s behind me.
I’m not mad. I’m grateful to God for his love and guidance through this worst time in my life. I’m grateful for all the blessings I have in my life right now. I’m grateful for all of the kindness and grace and love so many people have shown me and my family in these last 4 1/2 years.
And I’m extremely grateful for the 34 1/2 years on earth that I got to spend with Davey.
Miss you, Davey.