There is a cost.
There is a commitment.
Love leaves a mark.
The cost is being more concerned about another person than you are about yourself. What I want is not the most important thing when I love someone.
Commitment means loving this person even when they are unlovable. Sometimes it means offering help and other times it means drawing helpful boundaries.
Loving someone well takes a lot of energy and patience, wisdom and understanding. Loving people well is a lot of work. And it leaves a mark.
I have discovered that this mark doesn’t go away after someone we love dies. This mark is permanent and never leaves us.
David Glasser, my son, was a Phoenix Police Officer who was killed in the line of duty on May 18, 2016. The mark he left on us was an unusual kind of love. It was an outspoken love – a love that broke down some of the walls that we have built as adults. He said ‘love you’ often and you knew he meant it by how he included you and had fun with you and was loyal to you. You knew there was a commitment being made when he said ‘love you”,
It wasn’t just something he said.
The mark Davey has left on us is big. We have discovered how large of an impact he made on our lives as we continue to love one another with an outspoken love like he taught us. Saying it and showing it.
The cost of loving people out loud is giving up some of our ‘separateness’ and privacy. The cost is taking our eyes off of ourselves long enough to see someone else that needs a hug or a hand. The cost is letting others love us, knowing that this love will leave a mark. It will change us.
The commitment is not giving up even when its tough or strange or even a little weird. Yes, weird. If you’ve been really trying to love others, you know what I mean. The commitment is setting love as a priority and letting go of other things that we always used to think were important.
If I were to draw a picture of the mark Davey has left on us, it would not be a heart. It would be a magic wand. Because I have discovered since Davey’s death that loving people out loud has magical qualities which cannot be explained.
Love changes things. It has a supernatural power that comes straight from God. Love brings light into the darkness. Love soothes pain and sadness and loneliness.
Love really can change the world.
Thank you for the permanent mark of love you have left on our lives, Davey.
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