“Do you have any children?”
It’s a natural, ‘getting to know you’ question asked pretty early on in our first conversations with people.
It’s a landmine when I meet people who don’t know about the tragedy that blew my life apart 3 years ago when my son, David Glasser, a Phoenix Police Officer, was killed in the line of duty.
Yes, I want people to know me and I want them to know about Davey and his death. It’s just a tough thing to bring up in the middle of a conversation with someone I barely know. Depending on the emotions rolling through my heart that day, talking about Davey can start the tears rolling down my face. That’s a real conversation stopper.
Don’t get me wrong, I love to talk about Davey and all the great things about him. But sometimes on some days, there are very strong emotions tied to this subject. When emotions make the situation feel awkward, I move the conversation onto to talking about my beautiful grand darlings – one grandson and two grand daughters. They always help me smile.
This experience has taught me a couple of things about ‘getting to know you conversations’. They are not as superficial as they seem. Most people have various bruised and tender spots in their lives that can be difficult to talk about. We can’t avoid the landmines because they are often a central part of our lives that need to be included in who we are. So we share the hurt and we share the emotion and we share the awkwardness.
And – in the end – we know each other a little better.
That’s a good thing.
Miss you, Davey.